FRIDAY THOUGHTS #106: DECISIONS

Decisions.

I've learned many things over the past few years, one of them is that having the courage to do what you know you should do will make your life easy. I've done many things that I knew in my heart I shouldn't, and when the "smoke cleared", the result of my lack of obedience was always pain. Always. 

For example: I knew I wasn't happy in my marriage and I dragged my feet about leaving - in the end that only caused me even more pain once we did divorce.  I didn't want to feel the pain of not being with the woman I loved so much - yes, I wasn't happy, but at least I didn't have to go through the pain of "losing" my wife.  That lack of awareness caused me so much more pain down the road. I was so scared to leave and feel that initial pain of breaking-up, that I caused myself exponentially more pain in a divorce. I'm thankful in the end because I've learned so much from that intense experience.

Another example: I know a lady in her mid-40's that has had a medical condition since birth. The Doctors have warned her since childhood that if she became overweight she could literally die from it. She's known this, however, she's been unable to create healthy eating habits for herself and is currently considered overweight/obese, possibly morbidly obese. Just last week, she had to go to the hospital because her body was in pain, the Doctor said that she may have diabetes as well. At this pace she may also not be able to walk and will need the aid of a wheelchair. It's sad to hear stories like these, it hurts my heart to know that so many people are living in prisons of their addictions - and the repercussions of these addictions are not just a lack of confidence and happiness, but can be death.

The decisions we make can either give us life or take life. Decisions. We all make them and if it was easy to make healthy decisions, everybody would do it. I know that it's damn hard to make the right decisions in life, however, it's not our job to complain about how hard something is, it's our job to find the solution...and there is always a solution champion.

I was addicted to pornography for 20+ years, I finally got to the point where I got tired of being disgusted with myself...I deeply hated the feeling of letting myself down over and over again, I simply never wanted to feel that pain again.  As enticing as porn was/is, I know that after I indulge in it I'll feel like shit all over again and that feeling of disgust will overshadow all of the temporary pleasures I would gain. 

It took many years, but I never gave up hope, I never stopped trying and now I've been able to enjoy the benefits of living free from that addiction. Whatever addictions that you may be struggling with, just know that there is a solution out there, don't lose hope.  I believe in you more than you know.

Life is easy when we make the right decisions, it's difficult when we don't. It's only when we get sick and tired of hurting ourselves that we will then become obsessed with making the right decisions. Pain is your best friend if you metabolize it correctly. Never give up fighting to make the right decisions. You owe it to yourself to see who you were always meant to become.

P.S. In order to change a habit, more than likely you will need to change the people you hang around. Usually the friends you hang around are struggling with the same issue. Birds of a feather usually flock together. You will change your environment when you get serious about winning and that's a beautiful thing to see.

Reminder: You're needed. People need what you have champion, give it to them. #keepgoing