FRIDAY THOUGHTS #9: IT'S A NUMBERS GAME
It's a Numbers Game.
How I started in the dating world is....I went through a divorce, I got married pretty young. After the divorce...I was broken, didn't know ONE thing about dating, women, etc....good thing that I had a Dad who was a strong figure, so at least I wasn't a beta, BUT I was way too nice and naiive.
My first time in a club in years and I felt completely uncomfortable. I read a few books and began "practicing" every weekend. It's amazing how something that was so foreign could end up becoming so comfortable - in little time, the club/bar setting was my home, it was my comfort zone. I was so confident in talking to women, that day-gaming became relatively easy.
It all came down to practice (Allen Iverson voice).
I was heartbroken...alcohol and sleeping pills was my sleeping methods of choice. I was completely heartbroken...but the beauty of pain and trauma is that it can be the BEST motivating force in the world. It's supposed to be...and I was highly motivated! Anything to take away that pain. In the back of my mind I figured the more women I slept the more I would be able to piece myself together again - this obviously was not true, but it was hurt that fueled me. Many promiscuous people or simply people at clubs, I believe are very hurt people. I was both. I finally healed that hurt but the tools and information I now understand about women have been priceless. I have a great woman now...and I know I wouldn't of been able to sustain a healthy relationship without the knowledge I've learned.
I'm not sure what you're going through in your life...but USE your pain, it's a gift once we know how to metabolize it correctly.
I used that pain to push out of my comfort zone...I got so good at picking up women that I began giving advice to my friends. The biggest attribute that I had was that I was fearless. I would walk up to any woman...the "intimidating" ones as well. The more I did it...the more confident I became - I was good. I brought women home from the club very often: not all of them I'm proud to about lol but it is what it is.
The more I talked to women...the more women said yes. I remember reading this quote years ago, it said: "every no, just means you're one step closer to a yes" - it's a numbers game.
Don't fear failure...or looking stupid. You will. There is no getting out of it - but the person who's "why" is strong enough to brush off each failure, will eventually win the prize.
You can do anything you want in this world...if you have the mental fortitude to endure failing at it for a long period of time first. Go out and fail, make some awesome mistakes...and learn from them. Rinse and repeat. 👊🏾
How I started in the dating world is....I went through a divorce, I got married pretty young. After the divorce...I was broken, didn't know ONE thing about dating, women, etc....good thing that I had a Dad who was a strong figure, so at least I wasn't a beta, BUT I was way too nice and naiive.
My first time in a club in years and I felt completely uncomfortable. I read a few books and began "practicing" every weekend. It's amazing how something that was so foreign could end up becoming so comfortable - in little time, the club/bar setting was my home, it was my comfort zone. I was so confident in talking to women, that day-gaming became relatively easy.
It all came down to practice (Allen Iverson voice).
I was heartbroken...alcohol and sleeping pills was my sleeping methods of choice. I was completely heartbroken...but the beauty of pain and trauma is that it can be the BEST motivating force in the world. It's supposed to be...and I was highly motivated! Anything to take away that pain. In the back of my mind I figured the more women I slept the more I would be able to piece myself together again - this obviously was not true, but it was hurt that fueled me. Many promiscuous people or simply people at clubs, I believe are very hurt people. I was both. I finally healed that hurt but the tools and information I now understand about women have been priceless. I have a great woman now...and I know I wouldn't of been able to sustain a healthy relationship without the knowledge I've learned.
I'm not sure what you're going through in your life...but USE your pain, it's a gift once we know how to metabolize it correctly.
I used that pain to push out of my comfort zone...I got so good at picking up women that I began giving advice to my friends. The biggest attribute that I had was that I was fearless. I would walk up to any woman...the "intimidating" ones as well. The more I did it...the more confident I became - I was good. I brought women home from the club very often: not all of them I'm proud to about lol but it is what it is.
The more I talked to women...the more women said yes. I remember reading this quote years ago, it said: "every no, just means you're one step closer to a yes" - it's a numbers game.
Don't fear failure...or looking stupid. You will. There is no getting out of it - but the person who's "why" is strong enough to brush off each failure, will eventually win the prize.
You can do anything you want in this world...if you have the mental fortitude to endure failing at it for a long period of time first. Go out and fail, make some awesome mistakes...and learn from them. Rinse and repeat. 👊🏾
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